Making Peace

When asking for forgiveness, it is easy to get lost in mumble jumble and not effectively reconcile with whoever we have hurt. Here are a few effective points to make it easier:

1. Acknowledge that you have done wrong. Example, "I was wrong in screaming at you"
2. Identify the sin by its specific name. Example, "That was selfish and unloving of me"
3. Acknowledge the harm your offense has caused (this is not always appropriate). 
4. Demonstrate repentance by identifying an alternative biblical behavior. Example, "I should have been patient with you"
5. Ask for forgiveness. Example, "Will you forgive me?"

And if at the receiving end of this request;

1. Forgive
2. Do not bring the matter up again and use it against the person
3. Do not talk to people about the offense
4. Do not dwell upon the offense yourself

Colossians 3:13"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."